BDSM For Beginners – What You Should Know

BDSM For Beginners – What You Should Know

Sex is often a regular aspect of many healthy relationships, as it’s a way to show your partner that you are sexually attracted to them. However, like with most things, everyone has their preferences and interests, and in the world of sex, there is one particular type of sexual interest that stands out – BDSM.

 

What does BDSM stand for?

 

Bondage & discipline

 

Bondage and discipline are some of the most common types of BDSM, with many couples already encountering the use of bondage in their sexual activities on a minor scale. However, full BDSM involves completely restraining your partner or yourself, often to the bed so that you or your partner can assert dominance. For beginners, handcuffs are one of the best ways to get started, with the set on the Surrender BDSM website being a highly suitable option. 

 

Dominance & submission 

 

These two terms refer to the practice of giving or receiving control from or to a partner. As the dominant, you are the one in charge during the BDSM activities, whereas the submissive is the one that gives up-control and therefore is controlled by the dominant. There are several ways that this can be played out and portrayed, as ultimately, it’s up to those involved who plays which role and the control that they are allowed. 

 

Sadism

 

Sadism is one of the two terms that is often misunderstood with BDSM, but in simple terms, sadism is the pleasure someone receives from inflicting pain upon a partner. As a result, this is often a trait associated with the dominant, as they are in control and therefore has more opportunity to inflict pain.

 

Masochism

 

On the other hand, the masochist enjoys receiving sexual pain. For beginners, it’s key that ‘enjoying receiving pain’ isn’t taken too literally, as everyone has their own limits and boundaries, which links into the next point regarding talking to your partner. 

 

It’s important to talk about it

 

BDSM can be taken differently by every individual, even in relationships, each person may have their own opinion on BDSM, which is why it’s key that it’s discussed openly. Sitting down with your partner is the very best approach to identify whether BDSM is an option within the bedroom, and if so, what are the boundaries going forward? 

 

It’s key to remember the most important aspects to talk about is who will be the submissive and the dominant, which is key to guarantee that BDSM feels clean and you are still are receiving sexual pleasure. 

 

Getting started

 

  • Hair pulling

 

Hair pulling is one of the most basic forms of BDSM, so much that it’s used by many couples already in their sexual experiences, but it’s still a great way to introduce BDSM into your sex life. 

 

  • Spanking

 

Spanking is also another common practice of BDSM, though it plays a key part as it can cover all aspects of BDSM. Beginners should start with using their hand, though as you and your partner become more experience, sex toys can also be introduced such as this small leather whip.

 

  • Dirty talk

 

We have already discussed talking about BDSM with your partner, but communication can also be a form of BDSM via dirty talk. The submissive may get an extra kick from being told what to do in a certain way, likewise, the dominant could enjoy verbally controlling their partner.  

 

Toys are favourable

 

Authentic BDSM introduces the use of sex toys, and there is a wide selection to choose from, fortunately, Surrender BDSM is here to help. We have a BDSM collection that is bound to fulfil all of your BDSM requirements – whether you are looking for BDSM collars, ankle cuffs, restraints or anal plugs, we have a product for you. If you are looking for a complete bondage set, then we recommend Surrender BDSM’s exclusive Travel Storage Bag.

 

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