7 BDSM Myths Debunked

BDSM has become increasingly popular in the last decade, and rightly so, it can be very enjoyable for those involved. However, the more popular it becomes, the more myths are created to mislead those who are interested in finding out or trying BDSM themselves. Fortunately, the team at SurrenderBDSM recognise the increase in these myths, hence the creation of this guide, debunking seven of the most popular BDSM myths.

BDSM leads to a lack of interest in vanilla sex

At the end of the day, BDSM should be seen as a completely different sexual style compared to vanilla sex. It’s very unlikely that you will regularly engage in BDSM, only unless you and your partner are very keen, so it’s unlikely that you will ever notice that vanilla sex is very lacklustre. BDSM should also be seen as a kink that you engage in to further enhance vanilla sex, but not to take over from it.

BDSM is always about pain

Another popular myth is that BDSM ‘is always about pain’. True BDSM is often exploring and taking sexual activities to exciting new levels, though this should always be taken into consideration before engaging. Of course, some of BDSM can include extreme sensations that can be seen as painful, but doesn’t have to be the case for every single aspect of BDSM. 

At the end of the day, BDSM should be taken as far as you want to go in terms of pain. It is true that some people, often the submissives enjoy receiving pain, though this doesn’t mean that BDSM is painful in any way, it simply is for individuals that prefer it to be. 

Only women are submissives

Despite contrary belief, it’s not just females that are the submissives. For reference, the submissive is the person who submits to the dominant, so ultimately, gives up their power and control to their partner. Historically it may have been the case that women were always the submissive, but this is no longer the case where more males are willing to give up their powers to the dominant. 

Female dominants hate men

Once again another myth that has been manipulated throughout the years. Linking back to the previous point, when females are acting as the dominant, many believe that it’s because they hate men, which isn’t the case. Sure this might be true for specific situations, but that’s individual reasoning which shouldn’t be the image that female dominants are trying to portray. 

It always involves sex

Once again, not true. It’s often the case that BDSM is more popular during foreplay for many couples, especially with the use of BDSM sex toys such as whips, chastity cages and bondage. It’s more than likely that these activities will further enhance the sexual desire for those involved, meaning the need for BDSM or such as activities aren’t necessarily needed during sex as it will be wondrous anyway due to the increase in eagerness.

BDSM is dangerous

Before we go in-depth into this, it’s important to clear the air by saying that BDSM can still be dangerous, but that probably means you are doing something wrong. It’s very unlikely that you hear couples simply rush into BDSM, rather instead they will communicate before to ensure that boundaries are set; and that the sex and related activities are safe and enjoyable. Whilst on this point, when the last time you engaged in vanilla sex just after a conversation? It’s very unlikely that you have, which is why conventional sex is, in fact, riskier. 

Fifty Shades Of Grey Is an accurate depiction of BDSM 

Ever since the release of the first Fifty Shades of Grey book, the general population has grown an assumption that all BDSM is exactly like what Christian Grey and Anastasia Steel carry out, which simply isn’t true. Some of the aspects, such as the toys are more popular editions of BDSM, but the film largely focuses on emotional and physical abuse which isn’t a part of conventional BDSM. 

Thinking about getting started in the world of BDSM?

Whether you are new to the BDSM world or looking to bolster your collection of bondage sex toys, the SurrenderBDSM website is the place you need to be. With a fantastic range of sex toys including the exclusive Ruby Collection featuring 20 products, we are certain that you will find a toy or two that will fulfil your sexual needs.

To find out more or to ask any questions to our team, we recommend heading over to our contact page when you have the chance. You will simply need to include your message and contact details through our online form, where one of our experts will be in touch at the earliest convenience to provide information and address any queries. 

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